Many people assume you need to lock yourself down to the person you’re casually dating. But that’s not true. It’s called casual dating for a reason. It’s casual. You’re not committing to yourself.
Why should you throw away other possible connections?
Of course, if you’ve seen this person for months while also dating others, well, then you have a problem. But there is a way you can date multiple people without being considered a cheater, liar, or commitment-phobe. And I’m about to tell you how to do it. It can be done!
1. It Begins With Honesty
If you’re not telling the person you’re seeing that you’re also seeing other people, then you’re a liar.
Sure, it may be awkward to tell someone that they’re not the only person you’re seeing, but at least they’re given the choice of whether or not they approve of that.
Dating multiple guys at once isn’t about hiding one from another. Be honest and open right from the start.
2. Decide What You Want
Before you start to date multiple guys, sit down with yourself and see what you want from a relationship.
Are you looking for something casual? Something serious? If it’s the latter, create strict boundaries and stay focused on your needs.
3. Date For the Right Reasons
If you want to date multiple guys because you want an ego boost, then don’t do it. Listen to your gut instinct.
If you feel you’re stringing a guy along, then you’re doing it. It’s nice to feel wanted by multiple guys, but consider their feelings as well.
4. Don’t Make it a Game
If you’re dating multiple guys, understand why you’re doing it. Most likely, you’re trying to find the best match for you, or you’re not interested in settling down.
Regardless of the reason, it’s fine. But you shouldn’t treat it as a game because it’s not.
5. Make Sure They’re On The Same Page
If you want to date multiple guys, each guy you date needs to be on the same page as you.
Of course, being honest and open is a great start. But make sure they understand your needs. You don’t want to hear the sentence, “So… what are we?”
6. No Need For Guilt
If you’re honest and open with the men you’re dating, then there shouldn’t be any feelings of guilt. You know, and they know where you stand.
If they don’t want you to date other people, they need to make a choice. But the good thing is you’re not hiding anything from them.
7. Practice Safe Sex
When you date multiple guys, be smart and safe. Yes, you can have as much sex as you want with all of them, but please be safe.
You know the risks of unprotected sex, and they increase once you date more than one person at a time.
8. You May Develop Feelings for One of Them
If you develop feelings for one of the guys you’re dating, evaluate your situation.
Is this someone you want to be with? If so, then you’ll need to decide whether or not to act on your feelings and drop the other guys or not.
9. If They Don’t Like It, Let Them Go
Not every guy is going to be down with the idea of you dating other men. Some guys will tell you that they’re not interested in sharing their partner, and that’s something you must respect.
If this is how they feel, then let them go.
10. Don’t Overlook
Look at you, so popular! You’re going to need to schedule your time pretty well because you’re going to be one busy girl.
Out of respect for the men you’re dating, stay on top of things and don’t overbook. It’s not a nice feeling when you’re ditched for someone else.
11. Are They Dating Other People?
Though you may not care, it’s important to know if they’re also dating other people. You need to know if they’re having protected sex and if the people they’re sleeping with are healthy and STI-free.
It’s your body, and you only have one of them, so be careful.
12. Again, Don’t Lie
Don’t do it! You must be honest with the people you’re dating. Yes, it’s uncomfortable to talk about dating other people, but out of respect for yourself and them, be honest.
It’s hard, but they’ll appreciate and respect you for your honesty.
13. If You Can’t Be Honest, Don’t Do It
I’m really pushing this because it’s important. You can’t play with other people’s feelings. If you’re not able to be honest with the person you’re dating, then you shouldn’t be dating anyone. You’re not ready. If you can’t be honest, then don’t do it.
Conclusion
Dating multiple people isn’t wrong. It only becomes shady when you lie, manipulate, or disrespect others.
You can explore your options with integrity. All it takes is a little honesty, clear communication, and emotional responsibility.
Remember, it’s not about juggling people. It’s about building meaningful connections—however many that may be.
And what if love finds you in the middle of the chaos? Even better.
Just keep it real.